Dating is amazing. Yes, it can be completely terrifying and make you question yourself, but there are great parts too.
Let me start by saying that yes, I totally freak out and question everything like I talked about in Why Dating Sucks. But if you aren’t questioning yourself and you aren’t at least a little nervous, you probably aren’t excited. And if you aren’t excited…why are you going?
Dating is cool because you try new things. Now, this only pertains if you are going on actual dates and not just “hanging out” and you don’t go to a bar for every date. Not that going to a bar is bad by any means, but if you are going every time not much thought is going into it. Which may or may not be your thing. But personally, I wouldn’t always want to go to a bar.
So as I was saying, you try new things. A new restaurant, a city you haven’t been to. I don’t drink much at all so going to a bar was something new. When I order drinks, because I have no idea what I’m doing I just tell the bartender to make me something fruity and light. Lol. And I think beer is gross, but I tried something he ordered and it wasn’t bad! I tried sushi with actual fish in it for the first time. I couldn’t even taste the fish and it was good! New drinks, new foods, new places.
Even if he doesn’t take you anywhere new, which my date did, you take the lead. I decided to do this and said I would plan some dates, which I realized is new to me. And a lot of pressure. I feel bad for guys!
If you plan a few dates you can do things that you haven’t done before but sound fun. I suggest checking out Groupon.com and livingsocial.com for ideas. I have always wanted to do a Murder Mystery Dinner. I may decide to do that! And I have never been to a comedy show other than Kevin Hart at a stadium. But I have always wanted to go to an actual comedy house. Maybe try Painting With A Twist? There’s so many ideas you can try, maybe use this time to try things you have always wanted to do that you think he will like too.
Especially if you are a parent, just getting out of the house and focusing on YOURSELF and having a good time is great reason dating is awesome. So much time spent is worried about everything going on with your kids that you forget about having fun yourself.
Another reason that dating is awesome is because you start putting more effort into your appearance. This may not be the case for you but it definitely is for me. Going through daily routines of work, spending time with my son, and mainly being a homebody…I don’t dress up or spend much time on my appearance. I forgot what it feels like to spend hours getting ready. And honestly, I missed it. I missed feeling really pretty. Taking time to pick out a perfect outfit. He might not notice much or even care but it gives me a little extra confidence. And after feeling like “mom on the run” all the time it’s nice to just feel really feminine and pretty.
Though this next topic doesn’t pertain to me, it’s something I’m sure others think about. One of my best friends said dating multiple people is the best. I personally have a tough time with this. I’m not sure what’s wrong with me but I have never been able to date more than one person without completely panicking and feeling anxious. But she’s says it’s great, that “it’s like Elimidate. Remember that show?” That you have some options and you take the time to figure out which one is right for you. If I did this, I probably wouldn’t spend so much time on the wrong people, but it’s just something I can’t do. But if you can, more power to you!
What I have realized I really like about dating is really getting to know someone. I like learning about people anyway but it’s a little different on a more intimate level. Figuring out their likes and dislikes. What things do you have in common. What things you are on totally different pages about. Learning about their childhood, their past, their family. Their sense of humor. And telling them about you. I’m not sure why I like this so much but I really do.
The best thing about dating are the things that make your heart pound. The romance. Trying to figuring out your feelings for the other person. The butterflies. The nervousness. Wanting to text all the time. Feeling like you are a teen in high school again. That, in my opinion, is the best part about dating. And it all constitutes why dating is awesome.
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